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You’re here for new things to try in the bedroom… we’re here to serve (and maybe you are too, if you’re into that).
Whether you're a curious couple, long-term partners, or flying solo and looking to mix things up, this list is for you. This is the ultimate list of new ideas from new ways of love-making, playful experiments, to something totally new.to help you reconnect, reset, or just have a little more fun.
Before you dive into the sheets…
It’s great you’re looking to explore more (it means we’re doing our job correctly, too). First things first, spicing up your sex life isn’t about “fixing” something or impressing. It’s about expanding your sexual repertoire, finding fun sex ideas that excite you, and fun ways of getting intimate that help you connect on a deeper level.
It’s about playful exploration of your sexual desire, laughing through the awkward bits, and finding creative ways to feel good in your body and your relationship.
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Now, the juicy stuff. Ready?
Exploring sensory experiences
Sensory experiences are the perfect sexy addition to your bedroom time. Simple, easy to bring into the conversation and add more layers than you might think.
1. Use a blindfold
Take away sight, and every touch gets dialled up. The absence of visual cues can heighten sensitivity to sound, temperature, and touch, creating a deeply immersive sexual experience. It also encourages trust and vulnerability in a playful way. Letting your partner guide the experience while you’re blindfolded can help shift power dynamics and intensify connection.
2. Try ice cubes or warm oils
Temperature play is a good way to explore contrast. Try tracing a melting ice cube along your partner’s spine for cold sensations, or using warm massage oil to melt tension and build arousal slowly. If using warm oils, try adding a sensual massage to your foreplay This kind of sensation play can be an exciting way to boost confidence and get out of your usual comfort zone.
3. Bring in texture
Silk, rope, leather, fur, and other body-safe fabrics evoke different sensations. Run them across body parts, tie loosely, or blindfold them. Textural variety can help people stay present in the present moment and is an effective way to try playful explorations without rushing into more intense forms of kink. This is one of the best ways to keep the body engaged.
4. Soundtrack your session
Pick a playlist that fits the mood. Sexy jazz, slow R&B, moody electronica — music can frame your rhythm, set the emotional tone, and help you stay in sync with your long-term partner. You could also swap songs throughout the day to build anticipation before you even touch.
Fancy some sexy spotify inspo? Check out our spotify playlists here.
5. Light a scented candle
Scent is powerful. Light candles with warm, grounding scents like vanilla, sandalwood, or amber. Aromas can relax the body, signal a safe space, and even trigger arousal through association. Choose soy or massage candles that melt into oil for extra sensual play potential.
Trying new positions
6. Change the angle
Use pillows to elevate hips, adjust body parts, or support knees. A slight angle change can dramatically shift sensation and pressure points, especially for G-spot, P-spot, or prostate stimulation. Explore with communication - what feels different? Better? Too much? This is also perfect for trying different positions without strain.
7. Try one new position
Don’t overthink it. Choose one sex position from a book or app and experiment. Even if it’s awkward at first, the act of trying something new can be a good idea for building confidence and breaking routine. It’s great if you want to add variety without too much sex pressure.
8. Take it to the floor
Move off the bed and onto the floor, a couch, or even a pile of blankets. Changing your physical environment can mentally shift the experience from routine to adventurous. This can also be a creative way to test different sex positions that might not work as well on a bed and can open up new ways of moving together.
9. Mirror play
Watching yourselves in a mirror can feel awkward at first, but also deeply intimate. You’ll notice new expressions, movements, and angles, and it can spark fresh ideas or new sexual fantasies for your next session. This is especially great if you want to connect visually when the position itself makes eye contact tricky.
10. Slow it down
Take time. Make everything longer. Foreplay, sex and pillow talk. Slowing down increases anticipation, keeps you in the present moment, and can rekindle that slow burn in your long-term relationship. It builds connection and allows the body to open up over time, especially if one or both partners experience performance anxiety.
Role play and fantasy
11. Try one fantasy
Pick a fantasy you’ve thought about but never voiced. It could be something you’ve seen in a movie, heard about from friends, or a totally fresh idea. Talk through boundaries, safe word, and comfort levels before you start. This is a good way to test the waters without stepping too far outside your comfort zone.
12. Power swap
If you’re usually the one in control, hand the reins to your partner, or vice versa. This is an effective way to explore new sides of yourself and your long-term partner. Even small changes in who initiates can add excitement to your sex life.
13. Set a scene
Go all in or keep it simple. You could play strangers meeting for the first time, a barista and a customer, or even a superhero and their sidekick. Props are optional, but fun sex ideas often start with costume accessories or location changes and can make sex games more immersive. Bonus: the build-up can be just as hot as the act itself.
14. Flirt via text all day
Send Sexy texts that hint at your plans, drop subtle compliments, or build up anticipation with a sexy surprise. It’s a great idea for spicing up a long-term relationship or reconnecting after a stressful week.
15. Try voice notes
Voice is intimate and personal. Record yourself whispering a fantasy, or send an audio description of something you’d like to try. For long-distance lovers, this can be a creative way to keep your love life alive across time zones.
Enhancing intimacy through communication
16. Make a Yes/No/Maybe list
Print one from the internet or create your own. Each partner lists activities under “yes,” “no,” or “maybe.” This is an effective way to discover shared turn-ons, get new suggestions, avoid misunderstandings, and create a safe space for new conversations. You might even find you both want to try the same fun sex ideas without realising it.
17. Try dirty talk (your way)
It doesn’t have to sound like a movie script. Start small: “I love the way you touch that body part” or “I’ve been thinking about that night…” Over time, you can build to bolder language. This can Boost Confidence and deepen your sexual repertoire together.
18. Have a fantasy-sharing night
Light candles, pour a drink, and take turns sharing fantasies or past intimate experiences. You don’t need to act them out sometimes; just saying them aloud can connect you on a deeper level and spark fresh ideas for your next sexual encounter.
19. Debrief after sex
Spend five minutes talking about what felt good, what you’d like to try again, and what didn’t quite work. It’s an important thing for building trust in a long-term relationship. When you treat feedback as a good way to grow together, it becomes something you look forward to.
20. Use a code word
Pick a playful word or phrase to signal trying something new or taking a break. It’s not just practical, it’s empowering. This can make it easier to try new activities without worrying about spoiling the mood, and it keeps every sexual experience consensual and connected.
27. Sexy storytelling
Each of you takes turns making up an erotic story on the spot, adding details as you go. You can weave in sex positions, imagined locations, or fun ideas you’ve been curious about. It’s a creative way to combine fantasy with connection.
Exploring toys and tools
21. Introduce a new sex toy
There’s a toy for every mood and anatomy. Start with a small bullet vibrator, soft plug, or cock ring. Read reviews, explore together, and make it part of your shared discovery. Integrate it into foreplay and combine it with other activities like oral or penetration. It’s less about the toy itself and more about the openness it creates in your sex life.
22. Use lube. Always
Lube isn’t just for dryness; it reduces friction and enhances sensation. Try flavoured, warming, or silicone-based options depending on your activity. Having different types for different moods can become part of your shared ritual. It’s also great for oral sex and sensual massages
23. Remote control vibes
Hand the control to your partner at home or out in public. Agree on boundaries first and use the anticipation as part of the fun. This is a great way to experiment with dominance, surrender, or subtle teasing, even in a long-term relationship.
24. Explore anal play
Start slow, with fingers or beginner plugs. Use lots of lube and communicate clearly. Anal sex is all about trust, patience, and going at your own pace. Any gender can enjoy it. When done well, it can be deeply pleasurable and help expand your sexual repertoire.
25. Try a feather or pinwheel - or safely improvise
Soft sensory tools like feathers stimulate nerve endings. A pinwheel adds just a touch of sharpness, great for teasing along thighs, back, or any other body part you want to focus on. These are excellent for foreplay and reconnecting with your body’s capacity for pleasure. If you don’t have one to hand, improvise with household items like lace, a hairbrush, or the cool metal of a spoon. Always check it’s safe for skin contact.
Creative and playful ideas
26. Play a game
Turn games into sex games. You could play strip poker, cards, or dice with sexy rules in place. Or go more physical and play hide and seek, or tag - the opportunities are endless. They reduce decision fatigue and give you permission to explore ideas you might not voice otherwise. Plus, the silliness can cut through performance pressure. For couples wanting a fun sex boost, adding a playful challenge is a good way to reconnect.
27. Set a timer
Take turns giving or receiving pleasure for a set time (e.g., 10 minutes). No switching, no expectations, just focus. This can reveal what feels good when there’s no rush or script, and it’s an effective way to build confidence and Boost Confidence in a low-pressure environment.
28. Make a sex bucket list
Sit down together and write a list of sexual goals or dreams. Think fun, not pressure: “have sex outdoors,” “try a massage,” “recreate a scene from a movie.” It’s a great idea for sparking fresh ideas and tracking your shared exploration over time.
29. Try mutual masturbation
Watch each other touch yourselves. Mirror movements or go at your own pace. It’s a powerful way to learn, connect, and build confidence. It can also be an exciting way to discover new turn-ons or enjoy an intimate experience when penetration isn’t the goal.
30. Create a fantasy jar
Write down fantasies or activities on slips of paper. Pull one at random when you’re in the mood or when things need a shake-up. It adds mystery, takes you out of your comfort zone, and is a creative way to keep things feeling new in both short and long-term relationships.
Beyond the bed
31. Have a bath or shower together
This is about intimacy over sex. Lathering each other up, washing hair, or simply sitting in warm water together builds comfort and affection. These quiet rituals are often where real connection grows. Add a Hot Tub date night into the mix, and you’ve got a sexy surprise waiting.
32. Sensual cooking
Choose a dish that’s hands-on, messy, and shareable, like strawberries and chocolate or homemade pasta. Let the fun (and foreplay) start in the kitchen. It's also a good place to experiment with new activities that feel playful, build anticipation, and add more intimate experiences outside the bedroom.
33. Mindful kissing
Set a timer and kiss for five minutes without aiming for more. You’ll notice how quickly you slow down, tune in, and rediscover your early spark. Eye contact, breath, and focus make kissing more than just a warm-up - it can be a good idea when your love life needs a simple but powerful reset.
34. Take sexy selfies (just for you)
Feel good in your body? Document it. Take photos for yourself or each other. It’s about confidence, not performance. This can Boost Confidence, support self-esteem, and help you connect with your partner on a deeper level.
35. Try erotic reading or audio
Let your imagination take the lead. Erotic fiction or audio stories can be a fun idea for sparking playful exploration and discovering new heights of arousal without visual pressure. You might even find it’s a great idea for couples who want a safe space to share fantasies.
36. Take turns creating a scene
Alternate who sets the vibe: music, lighting, outfits, or mood. It can be a creative way to add excitement and variety, whether you light candles or change up the bedding. Small changes signal something special is happening.
37. Do nothing but cuddle
That’s it. No pressure, no goals. Just skin, breath, and the present moment. Cuddling is intimacy, and sometimes, that’s the hottest thing of all. It’s also an important thing for people healing from performance anxiety or touch aversion, as it reintroduces a safe word-free connection to touch.
The bedroom awaits
There you go, 37 new things to try in the bedroom (and beyond). Whether you try one or ten, the win is in the trying. Great sex isn’t about performance. It’s about presence, pleasure, and being open to what unfolds.
So, what new things are you excited to try in the bedroom?
Join our community for more sex-positive content, prompts, and resources. Or share this list with a partner and pick one thing to try tonight.
It could lead to something even more exciting.
